Shock // a sudden upsetting or surprising event or experience
Sometimes shock surprises you, excites you and sends adrenaline rushing through your body… others times it upsets you, breaks you and makes your tear ducts flood open.
Something I didn’t expect to happen occurred recently and it shocked me. My heart broke. All in one little minute. All because of one little sentence. I shouldn’t really be surprised. Life has thrown some unusual curve balls at me over the last few years; some of them were amazing and some of them were like living through hell. Some of them were consequences of my own choices and some of them had nothing to do with me but still had the ability to impact me greatly.
It got me thinking and I wondered if there is a responsible way to respond to shock? In this situation I cried. I always cry. No, I don’t mean I cry 24/7, I just mean I cry when I’m anxious, frustrated, disappointed, hurt, scared, angry, surprised, overwhelmed, inspired, encouraged and shocked. Crying seems to be my default setting. I take things personally. I’m emotional and I always have been. I have huge highs and lows. However over the last couple of years I have invested a lot of time in myself and my reaction to shock has changed. Investing time into oneself might sound strange, in fact it might even sounds selfish, but when we are trying to develop a successful business we spend time researching, planning, looking at different strategies, speaking to people with experience, setting goals… we seek help. So why should it be different in our personal lives? Self development is far from selfish. I have tried to learn new techniques of dealing with stress, shock and disappointment. I have learnt new ways of processing my emotions especially those that sometimes make me feel craycray. I have changed things about me physically, mentally and spiritually in order to develop me as a person. I’m stronger now. I’m more capable now. I have better relationships now and I am actually less selfish now. I have learnt that it’s ok to have a period of pain, cry if I need to, even lie in bed for a couple of hours if I want to… but there is also I time I need to stop, take control of my actions and emotions and move on.Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness. Steve Maraboli
I love that quote, although I’d add the word pray in there, as it’s super important… And I’d take the word happiness out of there, as it’s not so important. Life is not about being happy, it’s about being fulfilled. Contentment comes with overcoming challenges, it comes with having a purpose that’s bigger than you. Life is about so much more than being happy. So if things are tough for you, if you are in a bit of a pickle, or if you have been left shocked and disappointed my advise is…Cry. Pray. Forgive. Learn. Move on and continue to power ahead with purpose. Let your tears water the seeds of your future. Grow. Develop and then scatter those seeds. x